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….we have been talking about getting engaged for a long time. The problem is that I don’t want my parents to know this. They accept that we are together, but they would never have anything more to do with me if I had told them that we were getting engaged. I don’t want to tell my parents that we are getting engaged, even if they don’t accept everything, I don’t want to lose them either – which I do if I tell them this. We are not going to get married yet, but just get engaged. Do I have to bring my father as a witness, or can we take someone from the boy’s family? I have read so many different things, in some places it is said that you only need two witnesses (this can be anyone) and that you do it in the mosque with an Imam present. What is correct?
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Assalamu alaikum,
Thank you for your inquiry.
Engagement is basically nothing more than a man and woman agreeing to marry each other. Your email suggests that you have already taken this step.
An engagement also does not require the couple to marry later. However, if you still want to have a gathering of relatives and/or acquaintances where you declare each other engaged, this can be done without your parents being present. However, it is strongly recommended that they know about this important choice of yours before you proceed. No one else will benefit from it but yourself. You also do not have to do this in a mosque or in front of an imam.
However, it is only during the nikah (wedding ceremony) that two witnesses are required. The witnesses do not have to be the fathers of the spouses.
And Allah knows best.
Wassalam
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